Stop Worrying about Your Weaknesses

ist 1: Your Focus List (the road ahead)
What are you trying to achieve? What makes you happy? What's important to you? Design your time around those things. Because time is your one limited resource and no matter how hard you try you can't work 25/8.
List 2: Your Ignore List (the distractions)
To succeed in using your time wisely, you have to ask the equally important but often avoided complementary questions: what are you willing not to achieve? What doesn't make you happy? What's not important to you? What gets in the way?

We have a report card problem in our companies and it's costing us a tremendous amount of time, money, potential, and happiness. It's costing us talent.
Traditional management systems encourage mediocrity in everything and excellence in nothing. Most performance review systems set an ideal picture of how we want everyone to act (standards, competencies, etc.) and then assesses how closely people match that ideal, nudging them to improve their weaknesses so they "meet or exceed expectations" in every area.

Next time little Johnny hands you his report card with an F in math and an A in English, keep smiling and resist the temptation to ask about the F. Instead, ask about the A first. "What happened in English?" you should say to Johnny, "Why did you get this A?" Then let him tell you about how and why he succeeds. What is it about the work that excites him? What about the teacher? How did he study?
Then, if you want him to get a little better in math, you can help him recreate the conditions that led to his success in English.
And when you're done with the report card conversation, it might still be a good idea to get him a math tutor. Because school is about exposure to everything while business is about success in something.
And then, if you want to teach him to harness his particular path to success, make sure to get him an English tutor too.

Brain-storming on being the perfect best wife

There's no perfect man made thing in the world...not even wives...
Okay, here goes my line...

I'm going to be the best wife from now on

I'm not sure what he wants, because I'm like doing everything for him..what else do you want???? You are a thankless person, who doesnt actually give me respect or care about what I think or feel. All you ever have to say is "oh...stupid feeling, stupid thought"...blah blah blah...
What the hell!!!
How dare you do that to me...how dare you treat me like that after the what all I do for you...
I ahndle your family, your house...everything...
I'm practically doing everything possible. Adjusting to your ways...I've made so many compromises (justified or not) and look at you. You still behave with me like I do not even deserve to get any respect, esp in front of your parents. what do you think I am. I cannot live with you anymore, not with this attitude and I regret marrying you. you know what....you dont even deserve me.
I've always always compromised so much for you...and even after doing so much,...what do I get in return. Did I demand anythign from you ever...apart from love and respect and support.
You give me love, only when we are alone. You treat me like I do not exist in front of others...its like you are so conscious of yourself that you just pass me by....look at you.
I can see other peple...who show their love, their eyes reflect their love...and you....
your love is limited to this room.
You shout at me, say thing swhich you are not supposed to. you didnt even want to go to my mom's place to visit her coz my mama died. And when you did it was like you were doing me a favour. Even while being there you didnt want to stay...you wanted to go...
So, go......
Go away from my life....you dont treat me, my parents, my brothers or anyone else who matters to me anything. You think, you your family and everyone you know is so important....


I hate you...for aking me feel so little and terrible. for calling my feelings unimportnat and irrelevant.

I was doing it for you...I was searching jobs for you...I was chintit for you...and you show me atittude. As if you are doing some favour to me...hell with you!!!!!!

A new life scene...

Today I have an interview with a good company...you  may ask how a"good" company is defined. Well, in my words, a good company is an organisation which is better than your current one, for one reason or the other. The reason can be anything from location to growth to projects to management, etc etc. Obviously we all apply for the "good" companies only.

I had applied to many of them. Once, while going for the interview of one, I happened to get a message on my mobile saying "God has seen you struggling with something for a long time now, this is the day when a change with start which will help you overcome this". I was almost in tears. The sender was unknown. And though it was one of those forwarding messages, which you must forward to get your wish granted, I was happy and trustful, that I'm getting the job today.
But...I didnt. I mean, I wasnt told if I got accepted or rejected. It was neither. I was stuck...I'm still stuck...and want to desperately get out now. Enough is enough....

I did not mind working for my present company, if only they didnt start taking me for granted and behaving like total *****les. Yup! See my state of mind working with them. Being a good girl I'm talking like this...

I do not know what will happen today, but I just want to tell myself, that you were going to resign soon, to start working on your art. But a day job doesn't hurt...in fact its a better company and you'll actually learn a lot....so don't just give up! You can pursue art in a better way, since the travelling would reduce by almost half.
This is a good time, you know...God wants you to take a step a time, so you are absolutely sure of what you are doing or pursuing. Now, this doesn't mean He's gonna tell you what to do when. You have to stand UP for yourself and only and only you can fight for your self worth/respect.

Life doesn't have extra chances, it doesn't even come with a guarantee of staying for long. You know you're alive today, who knows for tomorrow. So, stand up and fight for yourself. Be Brave!!!
Let that heart beat...it always tries to scare you...its only saying that NOONE can mess with you girl!!
:)
Come on now...be organised and get ready for the next scene...
ACTION!

To my Future self...

"Abhi mujhme kahein baaki thodi si hai zindagi...Jana zinda hoon main toh abhi..."

This song is beautifully sung by Sonu Nigam, everytime I hear it it makes me cry, or overwhelm with emotions. Its so touching!!!

Sometimes, all those emotions surface coz of the songs...they are therapeutic.

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One important thing which needs mending in my life is the feeling of being wanted. Someone said I was easily targetable...am I???
Have I let myself so open to others that they have started taking me for granted?!!! Why did I change so much, that I started believing people and let them use me. Why did I let any of this happen to me, that I regret and curse myself for not being able to say anything at all...
and when I do...it all comes out like a volcano.


After an year and a half, when I look back I feel it wasnt that big a deal...I could have easily said all that. I didnt need to fear. And now again there's this situation, where I'm fearing for no reason. I know it, but this RESISTANCE is stopping me. Good...you know na what exactly it is...then why dont u take a step?!
Just Do it!!!!


You'll be so glad that you did...you'll be happy, content...that you were able to speak your mind.
Dnt think of diplomacy...just say what you want to. Just go ahead and do it!!


Money, the feeling of being safe doesnt even matter anymore. They'll be more excuses later when these are done with, and honestly I know that you very well know what to do.
So, without consulting another damn soul who has no idea of how you feel....just do it.



Niharika...these following words are for you...for FUTURE reference. 5 years from now, when you look back and see at this blog, you'll understand that what you did was absolutely right!
YOU...pursued your dream, which very few people can do. You believed in yourself because you are passionate about this....you did not leave your job because of what those people regarded you as, or treated you, you left that job because you wanted to pursue something far greater. Something which would tell you the meaning of life, why we are here and because you are here to "create" something...something so beautiful and emotional...
You love your life, you just cant sit there and do this job forever!!! Forget about the pay, what you got from working on your passion is priceless...you did it, because you wanted to connect to God, to yourself even deeper...Even if now its become a job for you, never loose that passion, that love, that feeling of creating something beautiful and learning more and more...
That will never stop....a good artist never stops learning and never think they know everything!! Always remember that...never let pride come in your way...ALWAYS BE HUMBLE (you may want to think of Amitabh Bachhan as an example, even if he's not alive anymore - in your time)

Niharika...you are a beautiful person, so ahead and live this life to the fullest. Don't stop at anything.
When you started painting, you re-realised how beautiful everything created by God is. The colors, the shapes...everything has so much hard work and genius in it. It is something so beautiful...to be appreciated. You appreciated it..loved it...and I am sure...you still do. Even more...
Love Shomu more...your BIGGEST support <3 , best friend...everything...Talk to him always, about your problems, and what you face. He'll not only help you, he will pull you out of them. Trust him more...

You might have kids by now, hope its getting beautiful by the day...did you do all those activities for them, which you  always dreamt of doing, using Pinterest???
And did you stitch nice and beautiful cardigans for them?? Did you show them your work and ow they inspire you?? Wow...I'm feeling so good inside thinking of them.
Now think of them and look back...your life is way better....and like a dream...Princess :) all because of the one decision you took...to move ahead and do what is required to be done.



"Deva Shri Ganesha...." - May you fulfill all your dreams and live happily ever after :)